I decided to start this blog because this year has been so hard for me. It’s been hard because I’ve made a lot of mistakes (or entered into alot of 'unknown' situations) within my business and with those mistakes has come stress – heaps and heaps of stress.
Running a business is not easy unless of course, you’ve done it before and know exactly what NOT to do, or you know exactly what your strengths and weaknesses truly are. With the launch of my personal brand, I wanted to focus around the notion of ‘balance’ purely because I’ve found it personally really hard to find balance myself, and I think that over the year I’ve noticed so many things that I could have done better, or ways in which I should have listened to my body more, in order to avoid being sick or tired or over-exhausted – both physically and emotionally.
From an outsiders’ perspective, things can seem totally fine – social media is a fantastic way of portraying or highlighting all the good stuff in our lives, and not necessarily all the things that happen behind the scenes.
It was only 2 weeks ago that my body was screaming for help. Every second day I found an ulcer in my mouth, my hair was splitting like crazy, and my skin had dry patches all over my cheeks and mouth. But did I do anything about it? No… I was ‘too busy’. Give it a few more days, and its no surprise that I woke up with a killer sore throat, a chest full of mucous and a horrible headache. That’s not to mention my sleeping patterns being disrupted and my bowel movements not cooperating (sorry for those who don’t like the thought of bowel movements – but this is a health and wellbeing site after all, so it’s bound to come up!)
My boyfriend Ben (you’ll learn more about him later) read me a quote while we were away just recently in Lombok, Indonesia… He was reading Tim Ferris’s new book ‘Tools of Titans’* and in an interview with Derek Sivers (creator of ‘CD Baby’ – the largest seller of independent music online), Tim and Derek discussed this concept of being too ‘busy’:
DS: “Every time people contact me, they say, ‘Look I know you must be incredibly busy…’ and I always think, ‘No I’m Not’. Because I’m in control of my time. I’m on top of it. ‘Busy’ to me seems to imply ‘out of control’. Like, ‘Oh my god I’m so busy, I don’t have any time for this shit!’ To me, that sounds like a person who has no control over their life.
TF: Lack of time is lack of priorities. If I’m ‘busy’, it’s because I’ve made choices that have put me in that position, so I’ve forbidden myself to reply to “How are you?” with “Busy”. I have no right to complain. Instead, if I’m too busy, it’s a cue to re-examine my systems and rules.
Why didn’t I listen to my body? Because I, (unlike Derek Sivers and Time Ferris), was too preoccupied running around like a maniac trying to make ends meet – I definitely didn’t feel like I had control over my life... and I still don't to be honest. It’s always hard admitting that you’re losing control over something or that you haven’t done something ‘right’ the first time… One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt this year is accepting that I have made mistakes, or that my way wasn’t the ‘best’ way, even though I feel like I worked my ass off for it. And as my boyfriend so lovingly pointed out to me, Derek and Tim are right – I am too busy focusing on shit that I really shouldn’t be focusing on or wouldn’t have to be focusing on had I got my systems correct from the get go. P.S. I will be writing a blog post on what NOT to do when starting a business so you’ll soon know what I’m talking about when I keep mentioning these ‘mistakes’.
Furthermore, from a health perspective, I guess I also seem to forget that if I’m constantly sick I can’t actually work… so it’s in my best interest to nurture my body for the sake of everyone and everything around me. It’s the typical problem of ‘not listening’ to our bodies and of simply taking them for granted because it’s so easy. Our bodies just keep functioning even if we are being horrible to them. It’s part of what makes them so incredible, but also one of the reasons why we as a race, are getting sicker and sicker by the day.
So as you can probably gage, I’m learning from my mistakes – and sharing them on here. I’m making 2017 a year where I really focus on change and development, both personally and from a business perspective. The blog is my version of what not to do when it comes to running a business, looking after my health, nurturing my relationships, letting go of fear, accepting my faults, engaging my spiritual side, and so much more. I felt I needed a place to get it out of my head and onto paper.
Along with my personal experiences, I will share with you my practical knowledge on health, wellness and nutrition – fantastic tips and tricks to help you love you body better, as well as beautiful wholesome recipes that you can cook at home, and useful tools and cases from my coaching clients. I’ve even started a fortnightly podcast with individuals throughout the world of health, wellness and lifestyle who inspire us for various different reasons – each podcast focuses around the notion of balance and how they manage the ups and downs of their careers and lives. I’m really excited about these podcasts as I know that they will be authentic and real – I know that I personally will learn so much from these people, as I hope you will too.
So please settle in once a week and join me with a cup of tea (or your favourite healthy snack), and have a read of whatever the latest topic might be.
To make it easier, you can sign up to my mailing list here – which will prompt you each week with what’s on the agenda (along with the odd exclusive recipe share, or health tip). Don’t worry, I promise I won’t bombard you with junk!
And that’s it for now. See you soon! X
* ‘Tools of Titans’ by Tim Ferris can be purchased online or through Tim’s website.